If you’re envisaging your very own ‘Sisterhood of the Travelling Pants’-style bond with your mates (if you know, you know…), as you each carve out your new paths in life, there’s good news – epic long-distance friendships aren’t just for the chick-flicks!

But your friendship will change – after all, there’s the small matter of you not seeing each other for six hours daily at school/college anymore. It might take a period of adjustment, but those bonds you’ve built in person can keep going strong, no matter the miles between you.

Thanks to the internet, your closest companions are never actually that far away. Having a weekly video call using apps such as WhatsApp, FaceTime or Zoom can be a great way to keep in touch and catch up on all the Freshers’ Week goss. Video calls are especially valuable if you’re an international student – helping you stay connected with your loved ones at home.

Of course, there’s also social media for sending sporadic snaps, TikToks, GIFs or amusing throwbacks. Remember not to get too caught up in your friends’ social media lives, though – as this can cause feelings of anxiety and even homesickness.

The various lockdowns of 2020 and 2021 turned all of our relationships into long-distance ones. But we moved with the times and realised that plenty of shared hobbies can be enjoyed in the virtual realm.

Here are some apps that will serve you and your long-distance BFFs well:

- Spotify – Why not share a playlist with the new songs (read: student union anthems) you’ve discovered at uni?

- PodBean – Found a new podcast you love? Share it with your friends and discuss them during your next FaceTime.

- Strava – Are you and your mates fitness buffs? Use Strava to see what running routes and general explorations they’ve been getting up to in their uni towns.

- Netflix – Coordinate watching your favourite film and howl at the most cringey bits on video chat.

- Xbox Live – Keep your competitive streak going with your friends. FIFA, anyone?

Of course, it’s not all about smartphones, laptops and games consoles. There are other creative ways of staying in touch, although they require a tad more planning.

Why not write your friend a letter or make them a ‘Missing me?’ box – filled with notes, memories and inside jokes, to open as and when? If you’re feeling extra creative, you could even set up a book or craft club with your friendship group.

The first few weeks of uni are the best time to meet new people, and you’ll no doubt form new circles of mates – from your flat, course, sports teams and societies. But try not to compare your ‘home friends’ to your newfound clique, and allow each other to make new friends – no green-eyed monsters, please!

Similarly, don’t isolate yourself from your uni experience by trying to keep up with your school friends in those early weeks. Moving away from home is a big change and your uni mates will be a vital part of your support network, so make an effort to immerse yourself in the ‘here and now’. At Sanctuary Students, our halls have common areas and we also run regular events, making it easy to meet your flatmates and help you settle in.

Video chat is good – but nothing beats seeing your mates face-to-face! Make a plan to visit each other at university, or at home – if they’re working or doing an apprenticeship. For those at uni, you’ll get to see their student digs and meet their new friends – helping with any feelings of FOMO when you see them pop up in your BFF’s Insta. What’s more, you can show them your amazing Sanctuary Students accommodation!

The lengthy uni breaks are a definite perk of student life, and the first one that rolls around is the Christmas break. Make the most of you all being home at the same time and organise a festive meet-up – ice skating, Christmas markets or festive baking. Even if you haven’t seen each other in your first uni term, you’ll soon be joking around like you used to.

While nostalgic anecdotes, ‘in-jokes’ and embarrassing ‘remember-whens’ are the cornerstones of your friendships, it’s important to keep making new memories with your school friends, so your relationship continues to grow. The previous tips will help you with this, and means that in the future, you won’t just be chatting about the ‘good old days’ of school.

It’s completely natural to miss home in the first couple of weeks. But don’t worry if your school friends seem busy – remember that they’re in the same boat if they’ve gone to uni or started an apprenticeship, and probably have a lot going on. And talking of potential misunderstandings, it’s not unusual to have the odd disagreement with your long-distance friends. As with any relationship, good communication is the key to maintaining a strong bond, as you navigate the changes in your friendship.